Friday, January 28, 2011

Trying to Quit Music? Smoking? Porn?

As Muslims, we want our last words in this life to be the shahadah, our declaration of faith, not the lyrics to some song. SubhanaAllah, music is something one's heart can become addicted to so easily. However, there are 'techniques' we can use so that we can decrease how much we listen to music as music can easily lead our hearts astray. Even though I follow the opinion that "music" is not permissible, I understand there may be a difference of opinion in this subject. Therefore, I will stay away from discussing the fiqhi issue on music as I am no scholar.

However, I would recommend to the person who wavers in their decision of whether or not they want to listen to music to consider the hadith of Rasulullah (SAW) in which he said, "Both legal and illegal things are evident but in between them there are doubtful (suspicious) things and most of the people have no knowledge about them. So whoever saves himself from these suspicious things saves his religion and his honor. And whoever indulges in these suspicious things is like a shepherd who grazes (his animals) near the Hima (private pastures) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it. (O People!) Beware! Every king has a Hima and the Hima of Allah on the earth is His illegal (forbidden) things. Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good but if it gets spoiled the whole body gets spoiled. And that is the Heart" (narrated by Bukhari). To say the least, indeed, the issue of music is doubtful, so let us save our religion, honor, and heart!

This article is not intended to be an Islamic article. The following is my advice and that is it. It is not intended to be an Islamic approach but just some advice from your brother. In terms of personal reflections on how to leave music, it is a simple process. SubhanaAllah, some people are able to do such deeds cold turkey where they decide to do something one day and the same day, they implement want they want to. However, this technique is hard for the majority of people as one becomes prone to return to his or her old ways as is the case with some Muslims in terms of the deen. May Allah (SWT) protect us. Amen. My personal recommendation would be to leave music in steps or stages with a target date set for each step. For example, one could give up one genre of music at a time (as I did). Another way to give up music in stages would be to eliminate the places/times where one can listen to music. For example, listen to lectures, nasheeds, or the recitation of the Holy Qur'an instead of the radio in your car. However, it is important to stress you need to have a target end date in mind and you need to stick to it, inshaAllah!

This technique could be applied to other things that you may be trying to quit. For example, if you are trying to quit smoking, you can cut down in the types of environment you allow yourself to have a smoke and slowly reduce that number. Or you could cut down on the number of smokes you take per day. This technique of weening off can work for many things. If you suffer from addiction to pornography, maybe you can eliminate the means you assess it. Maybe you can face your computer in your home so that you never truly have that privacy to look at the haram sites. You can attempt to block the means to the haram.

Coming back to the topic of music, subhanaAllah, we waste so much time listening to music when instead we could be accumulating knowledge (I sometimes listen to lectures for my education when I am in the car in lieu of wasting time with music). Furthermore, we can garner soo many good deeds in our remembrance of Allah (SWT) by listening to the Quran or Islamic lectures. Indeed, when we do something solely for the sake of Allah (SWT), we will see the perks of such deeds. For example, Rasulullah (SAW) said, "Whoever says, 'Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi' (Glorified is Allah and praised is He), one hundred times a day, will be forgiven all his sins even if they were as much as the foam of the sea" (narrated by Bukhari). We could definitely take advantage of this hadith in our milk-runs to the supermarket!

May Allah (SWT) accept our deeds. Amen.

In closing, consider the statement of Abdullah ibn Masud, the companion of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW), as Ibn Masud said, "The love of the Qur'an and the love of music cannot combine in the heart of a believer." How true…

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك اشهد ان لااله إلاانت وأستغفرك وأتوب إليك

All conference Friday (For Muslim)

"When the call is to prayer (bang) to prayer on Friday, then quickly you go (to the mosque) for the remembrance of Allah (in prayer Friday) and leave-purchase (at the time), which is best for you, if you know (the fact that the real). " Surah Al-Jumu'ah:9

He S.A.W. said: "Bring the Friday prayer is the duty of every person who has quite the age of puberty." (Narrated by An-Nasa'i)

Prophet S.A.W. which means: "Whoever ablution and then he went (to the mosque to perform) and listen to Friday prayers sermon, the priest of his sins will be forgiven up to the Friday after that and added a three-day more. Who fun playing the prayer be in vain". (Hadith narrated by Muslim)

Prophet S.A.W. which means "Jumaat is the 1st beautiful day. The most precious day in the sight of him and the sight of Allah the Almighty the most general, the higher (noble) of the feast day of Eid Al Fitr and Adha". (Hadith narrated by Ahmad)

In another hadith, the Prophet S.A.W. said, which means: "Day of the Covenant is the Day of Resurrection, the witnessed day is the Day of Arafah and the Day is a day that saw Jumaat. Sun not published and is not embedded in any day more precious and more better than Friday.

Prophet S.A.W. another meaning: "On that day there was a time in which a servant of the believer to pray to god something good, Allah will fulfill his prayer. Or he asks God to protect him from evil, God protect him from the evil. " (Hadith narrated by At-Tirmidhi)

He S.A.W. said, which means:
- "Anyone who Junub bath on Friday and his appearance (the first Friday prayers at the time), he is like sacrificing a camel."
- "Anyone attending Friday prayers at the second, he is like to sacrifice a cow."
- "Those who come Friday prayers at the third, as he sacrificed a horned kibasy.
- "Anyone attending Friday prayers at the fourth, he gave gifts such as chickens and a mother who attended prayers at the fifth, he seemed to give the prize egg."

"When the imam appeared (increase minbar), the angels were also willing to listen to sermons and warnings." (Sahih Hadith narrated by Al-Bukhari)
He stressed again: "Who had the Friday prayers in the sight of Allah, for him the reward of a hundred martyrs."
سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك اشهد ان لااله إلاانت وأستغفرك وأتوب إليك


Ya Allah! Ku mohon padamu ampunkanlah dosa hambamu yang lemah ini ya Allah!
Aku sedar akan segala yang lalu
Sungguh aku menyesal atas segala salah yang ku lakukan
Ampunkan aku ya Allah
Selamatkanlah aku dari bisikan syaitan dan tunjukkanlah jalan yang lurus bagiku.
سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك اشهد ان لااله إلاانت وأستغفرك وأتوب إليك